Earlier this year Gary Vaynerchuk’s shared some powerful advice on friendship. It was controversial because it may be polarizing to some, but useful to others.
Gary Vaynerchuk is an American entrepreneur, four-time New York Times bestselling author, speaker and internet personality. He is first known as a leading wine critic who grew his family’s wine business from $3 million to $60 million, Vaynerchuk is best known as a digital marketing and social-media pioneer at the helm of New York-based VaynerMedia and VaynerX.
This is his advice on friendship:
Choose friends who help you succeed
Drop one loser friend and replace it with one winner friend. Go through the friends you hang out with and have a very serious conversation with yourself about the “relationship value” they bring to the table. Based on that, audit your circle and replace one loser friend with a winner.
Ouch, that was harsh, but if you are truly honest with yourself and see that the energy that other people put out affects our thought and decision process. Their ethos rub off on us in a subconscious way. A healthy you will attract the right kind of people who share your goals, values and passions.
Cathartic increase in motivation.
The time spent with them will lead to a cathartic increase in motivation, which in turn will lead to a deep dive towards being productive, functional and operational towards your goals. Your mind will subconsciously imbibe a temperament which will lead you to constantly think of new ways, methods, and actions to come closer to your goals. This is because you will be constantly engaged in conversations and lifestyle stances with people working towards similar objectives.
Find people who share the same goals.
Gary rounds up his point by giving us an actionable tip in the end: research and attend at least ten meet-ups in your niche and make new friends from among those circles. The more people you meet who are hungry for success in your niche, the more driven you become in achieving your goals.
As they say: Your vibe attracts your tribe, so choose wisely!
Sending healthy friendship vibes!💋