Are you with a Cushioner?

Yes, I am back with another dating trend this week, Cushioning.

Urban Dictionary defines cushioning as “a dating technique where, along with your main piece, you also have several ‘cushions,’ other people you’ll chat and flirt with to cushion the potential blow of your main breakup and not leave you alone.”

This behavior has been going on since the beginning of time, but now we give lousy dating etiquette names.

This coward way of dealing with uncertain feelings about your SO stems from deep unresolved emotional and intimacy issues that go beyond the scope of comprehension.

It’s a blinking red flag that your relationship is headed into a dead-end.

Look out for these signs to ensure you are not with a Cushioner:

1. Taking the phone to the bathroom
2. Being shady with several messenger accounts
3. Becomes defensive if you tell them they are on the phone for too long.
4. Their phone is blowing up at all hours
5. Always takes calls away from you
6. Sliding into other’s DM
7. Marathon texts, this person offers no explanation
8. Super protective of the phone as if it needs to be joined at the hip
9. Opposite sex individuals that you do not know commenting with inside jokes on their social media posts

I, unfortunately, have been with a Cushioner and its the worst feeling because you sense that something is up, but you cannot pinpoint what it is then you end up in a bad head space.

Trust your gut as it will never lead you astray.

Sending love vibes! 💋

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  1. Jess

    Quite frankly most of us have been in this position. The telltale sights are evident, but we just choose to ignore de evidence. The situation becomes evident when the inevitable happens; The girl get dropped like a hot stone, the guy becomes distance, making excuses or simply drop off the face of the earth. If we notice any of the sights that are stated in this post, the right thing to do is to address the situation with the guy calmly. The worse outcome could be that you save your self from a major heartbreak.

    1. IngridMadisonAve

      I know and why so many names? 🤔 In this scenario the main girl is getting hurt because of the male shady behavior with flirty text to other women. 🙈

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