In the world of hookups it can be very confusing for a single lady to decide when is the right time to mate with her date.
Since I am a huge fan and follower of Dr. Pat Allen.I refered to her on this advice when I was single. For those of you who are not familiar with Dr. Allen, here’s a quick bio:
82 years old, best-selling author, speaker, psychotherapist, communication and relationship expert. She authored numerous books including Getting to ‘I Do,’ Staying Married…And Loving It!, and The Truth About Men, and soon to be released, It’s a Man’s World and a Woman’s Universe. She is known as “The Love Doctor, Therapist, Comic Mother Superior,” and made many appearances on The Oprah Winfrey Show, CNN, Bravo, Millionaire Matchmaker, Fox 11 News, and many more.
Dr. Allen says that a single woman should have sex with her date when she has a contract, which involves the mutual agreement of monogamy, exclusivity, stability, and continuity.
When you want a relationship based on love and committment you have to ask yourself if he is the man that will roll out the red carpet for you with unconditional love, care, emotional as well as treat you like a queen when you are ill? Will this man be your soulmate to hold your hand through the bad and through the good? Will he be your partner for life and adventure? Will this man be a good father? “Is he man enough to be able to support for your security and a couple of kids?” Not anyone can be a dad. Being a dad is a huge responsibility.
If you are looking for love you shouldn’t have sex with a guy until you have some kind of contract, or a promise ring,
Yes it is hard in today’s world, but she says that the world is falling apart because of hookups.
If a man does not agree with the terms listed above, run! (tip: it’s a good way to separate the pretenders from the contenders). All he wants is sex and that is not good for your mental health. It can take up to two years to get off of the oxytocin, serotonin and dopamine. All you are left with is feeling used physically, and emotionally along with the time wasted on a man who will not give you what you truly want longterm.
Every woman is unique in today’s world, but if you want a solid and healthy relationship, its good to have a wholesome start.
Sending luck and love vibes to you all!