Valentine’s Day is just around the corner, and many people will be getting their partners flowers, cards, and chocolates. However, why not try celebrating Valentine’s Day based on your partner’s love language?
One way to figure out what will make your partner the happiest is to look at their “love language.” Love language is a concept created by couples’ therapist Dr. Gary Chapman to describe how people express their love and feel loved. I wrote a post on this concept in the past, click here to read.
It’s the same concept as people need to speak the same language to communicate. Partners can better convey their feelings by speaking to each other’s love language.
Here’s how to do that on Valentine’s Day, depending on what your partner’s love language is (and if you’re not sure, you can both take the quiz here).
Words of affirmation
These people value praise, sincere compliments, honest vocal appreciation, and spoken declarations of love. Write a beautiful handwritten card or poem that will make a meaningful Valentine’s gift.
This love language value exclusive, present, and attentive time together — think intense conversations, one-to-one activities, and screen-free bonding, A partner who values quality time, will appreciate it if you make them a romantic dinner. They enjoy a day full of surprises. Just remember to be present, mind, body, and spirit.
People who speak the love language of gifts aren’t materialistic — they’re more interested in the thought you put into the gift. They are seeking signs of your creativity, the element of surprise, and your intuition about their unspoken wishes or desires. They want to feel like you instinctively know them. These kinds of people will appreciate something handmade, like a piece of jewelry or work of art that has significance for you, or an object that symbolizes a memory you’ve shared.
Acts of service
Speakers of this language love when their partners go above and beyond to take care of chores for them or otherwise make their lives easier. Go beyond the chores to do something sweet, like setting up a romantic bath, cook them their favorite meal, or even take them on a little trip, or a staycation.
This love language isn’t just about sex, it can be hugs, snuggles, kisses, holding hands, an arm around the waist or shoulders, or even the light touch of forearms or feet when sitting together are all considered declarations — and proof — of love. To express your affection for a partner with this love language on Valentine’s Day, give them a massage, or plan a sexy night that includes a new toy or another fun, beautiful gift.
Whatever you decide to do, do it from a place of love as it is always be felt by your partner.
Sending love vibes! 💋
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