The Four Tendencies based on your personality. Which One Are You?

I am so excited to share this insightful book, which uncovers the different personality traits based on our tendencies.

The book is written by Gretchen Rubin.  She is the author of many books, including the blockbuster New York Times bestsellers Better Than Before, and The Happiness ProjectShe has an enormous readership, both in print and online, and her books have sold almost three million copies worldwide, in more than thirty languages. (The Happiness Project spent two years on the bestseller list.)

In her new NY best seller The Four Tendencies, Gretchen describes everyone into four categories, how people tend to respond to expectations: outer expectations (a deadline, a “request” from a sweetheart) and inner expectations (write a novel in your free time, keep a New Year’s resolution).

In a nutshell here are the four tendencies:


  • Upholders respond readily to outer and inner expectations
  • Questioners question all expectations; they’ll meet an expectation if they think it makes sense
  • Rebels resist all expectations, outer and inner alike
  • Obligers meet outer expectations, but struggle to meet expectations they impose on themselves

Click here to see who you are, so you can better communicate with those around you that are different.

If you’d like to see Gretchen discuss each category in a video, you can watch: for Upholders, watch here; Questioners, here;  Rebels, here, and Obligers, here.

I am a Rebel surprise, surprise!  Which one are you?  Leave your comments below.

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  1. englishwithkirsty

    I’m a questioner. Convince me that it’s a good idea and I’ll do it willingly, but expect me to do it when I think it’s a bad one – you’ll be waiting a long time! I think it’s good to understand about ourselves, but also to understand how our friends and co-workers respond to these things so that we can work better together.

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