What I know now, I wish I knew in my twenties because life was scary, uncertain and I was full of anxiety.
There were so many unknowns, but there are specific critical pieces of advice I know today that have helped me manifest the wonderful life I have created in the now.
Here’s the advice I would share with my 20 something-year-old self:
Look for the reasons why it can happen
Because I did not have much experience on the magical power of thought and feelings to fulfill my destiny, I was in a state of negative reality thus producing more negative outcomes.
Infinite patience produces results
I wanted everything yesterday. I was impatient on every level. Have patience because good things will happen, but it takes time.
You can validate yourself for your personal growth
LA was a hard place to grow up because I chose to fall into the material trap of nice cars, house, clothing, and the right Hollywood type boyfriend. I was so insecure that I needed things and people to validate me.
You are good enough
On a daily basis, casting agents for modeling jobs would tell me I was not tall enough, my eyes were too hooded, I looked too ethnic, my torso was not long enough, etc. The list was so endless that I would go home feeling real sh…ty. I learned that these standards were all false. It had nothing to do with me, but instead designers, marketers, and publicist that needed to push a brand, or an idea to take your money.
Put your ego aside
Due to my overwhelming and crippling insecurities, I would speak and act from a place of ego and not love. I would try to one-up a person if they were bragging about something special in their life. It was a false sense of self that I am not proud of, but I learned my lesson the hard way.
It’s ok to let go of your high school and college friends
My friend once told me “there are friends for a reason, a season, or a lifetime.” Some people blossom and grow with you, while other’s don’t, and that is ok.
There are so many life lessons I could share, but I don’t want to bore you today. I may do a part 2 of this post as I want to share whatever poison may have hurt me, so that it can be your medicine.
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Photo credit: me in my 20’s for a John Freida campaign