How the word “No” can empower and change your life

If I can give my younger self a piece of valuable advice, it would be to say “no” to things and people who were not out for my highest good.

No is the fortress in which you use to protect yourself as well as establish boundaries from people who want to exist as parasites in your life.  Their intentions are not pure.

When you say “no” to an unhealthy situation, it is the ultimate expression of self-love, and you are taking responsibility for your life.

By saying “no,” you are choosing to love yourself because without loving yourself you cannot give what you do not have.

In my twenties, I did not practice the word “no” because I wanted people to like me. I have come to realize later in life that I was mentally hurting myself by trying to people please all the time.

The more we say “no,” to eating the wrong foods, or not doing what others expect us to do when we are not feeling it, the more empowered we will become.

When you practice the word “no” it keeps your principles, integrity, and values aligned with your soul, heart, and spirit.

You are giving away your power when you don’t practice saying “no.”

During this holiday season, please know that’s it’s ok to say “no” to the Christmas party that you do not want to attend, or to someone who wants to manipulate or exploit you for their gain.

By using this simple word, you will gain respect because others will realize that you are not part of their game.

Here’s a formula I use to measure all relationships:

Prosperity, pleasure, or knowledge

If people in your life cannot offer one of these three elements: prosperity, knowledge, or pleasure, then they should not exist in your life.

Protect yourself because there is where the authentic self-love exists.

Namaste 🙏🏼

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  1. sharonchyy

    Hey dear! I stand on “Self love”because you can’t love another person until you love yourself first! And for a solid relationship PKP has to be in place! Nice blog & lit photos 👌will revisit 🙌Thanks for sharing dear😍✌️

  2. Kerry LifeandLoves

    I 100% need to learn to say no more, and its actually on my “things I will do in 2018” list. I think as a woman and mother, its ingrained in me to spread myself thin and be there for everyone. I need to learn to say no occasionally!

    1. IngridMadisonAve

      Feel you, been there and it’s too much for us sometimes. Yay, happy you will turn your life around for the positive in 2018! 👏🏼

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