Advice I would give my 30 year old self

Happy first day of Spring! 🌷

As my birthday approaches next week, I thought I would share with you all some invaluable advice I would tell my 30-year-old self in hopes that it can help some of you.

Life is a marathon, not a sprint

I was beating myself up for not being successful in business, but now I know I was not spiritually fit to handle all the stress. 😱

Marry someone you love, not who your parents expect you to marry

My first marriage was to a person I knew my parents would approve, and expect me to marry.

Formal education will make you a living; self-education will make you a fortune

I was so worried about where I went to college, but now realize it does not matter.

Your new life will cost you your old one, and that’s ok

I outgrew certain people in my life because I was leveling up while they were sitting around complaining about why they’re in the same place since their 20’s. You need to disconnect from certain people to bless your life.

Trust your gut; it’s your guardian angel

I was always second guessing, but now I know to trust my inner voice when making important decisions.

Listen more than you speak

Out of social nervousness sometimes I would speak waaaay too much, and I never came up for air.

30 is just a number with a zero, stop stressing about your age

Turning 30 seems so old after your 20’s, but its the most exciting time to discover your awesomeness, I became more confident in my 30’s. Treasure every day, and don’t worry about age. Plus, worries age you.

Spend some time being still

Now I value alone time and stillness because it allows me to manage life better. In my 30’s I never gave myself 5 minutes to think because I was not comfortable sitting still. I felt that I needed to be doing rather than being.

You are not your mistakes

Your mistakes don’t have to define you; they are just life lessons, and blessings.

Don’t take everything so seriously

Step back and ask if I would care about something ten years in the future. If I wouldn’t bother then, why should I now?

What others think of you is none of your business

I know now that worrying is a wasted emotion. I used to be so worried about everything anyone could think about me. It’s so liberating now to not give that emotion attention.

Look at the long term

In my thirties, I was very short-sighted. I guess that was my survival mode. Now when I look back, I would like to have told myself to look forward a bit more and plan for the future.

Do you have any advice to share with us? If so, let us know in the comments.

Sending sunny spring vibes! πŸ’‹

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  1. ayrgalaxy

    Happy early birthday! I hope you have an amazing day.
    And thanks for sharing this advice. I am learning a few and I think it’s good that I’m learning some of these life skills at this time in my life. And seeing a few others has given me some perspective.

    1. IngridMadisonAve

      Thank you sweetheart! 😘 Yes, it’s good to see different perspectives. Again, I apologize for late response. This comment ended up in my spam folder. xx

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