What’s worst than being Ghosted? Getting Curved

Happy Friday!

Whoa, we had our first snow of the season yesterday, and it was a slushy one.

Since it’s Friday, and I am always looking out for you all, especially you single ones out there hitting the weekend on a date, or making plans, I thought I would educate you on Curving.  This dating term should be renamed to “getting played via text.”

“Curving” is when someone rejects you in a way that is so sneaky, you probably won’t even recognize it as rejection.

It’s a strategy of letting someone down without actually telling them you’re just not that into them.

Here are some examples of Curving:

One person begins the curving habit via texting. Maybe they take days, or weeks, to reply to your last text message.

When they finally get around to respond, a curver will reply, but their responses will be sporadic and often lame. There will be a series of “I’m so sorry for the delay, I’ve just been so slammed with work, family, pet, all poor excuses.

It takes seconds to text. Yes, we all get occupied with work, family, friends, but when someone truly matters, you will take the time to send out a simple text to acknowledge their existence.

As this kind of behavior becomes habitual, and you find yourself spending more time waiting for this person to reply then actually engaging in conversation with them, you know they’re taking you for a ride, and a curvy one down a road to nowhere.

Another trick is when they make plans to see you, then they bail on you last minute.

They’ll say things like: “I would love to hang out with you on Friday, but I’ve got this (whatever ridiculous excuse) thing that I really can’t get out of. Let’s definitely do something soon though.”

Deep down, you will know that the other person isn’t that interested, but you still hold out hope. Then you begin to convince yourself that the curver is just having a bad day/week/month. If they can say the right thing, they’ll magically become keen again.”

When a person curves you, it’s their way of trying to cool things down without saying it to you directly.

According to dating psychologist Madeleine Mason, “people who curve often behave in this way to boost their own ego, because continuing to brush off someone who is romantically interested in them makes them feel more desirable.”

In the end, the person who continues to engage while accepting poor quality responses is at fault. You need to have a zero curving tolerance policy as this behavior is both cruel and manipulative.

It boils down to the person being curved to put an end to this behavior once and for all by NEVER responding, and just hitting the Block Button.

Sending relaxing weekend vibes! 💋

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