We live in a world of instant gratification. Anything we want comes easily except when you are searching for”real love.”
Serendipidating means “putting off a date in the hope something better comes along,” according to the New York Post. It’s waiting for the perfect unicorn (or merman à la The Shape of Water) and not giving quality connections a real shot.
Samantha Burns, counselor and author of Breaking Up and Bouncing Back: Moving On to Create the Love Life You Deserve, told HuffPost that serendipidating “ often happens because these days people want to feel an instant sense of excitement and chemistry.“
In other words, we’re all waiting for that fairytale, or Hollywood romance.
To find “the one” takes time, effort, and patience. It also involves a lot of self-reflection, lots of soul-searching, or therapy. Sometimes we think we want something, but it’s a false desire based on an insecurity, or an unresolved psychological need.
Serendipidating will not get anyone closer to meeting the love of their life. It’s like putting off several job interviews when you are unemployed in hopes that something better comes along. This way of thinking is a sure way of missing an opportunity to meet someone who can capture your heart and they may be sitting right in front of you.
Sending love vibes! 💋
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Serendipidating – that’s an interesting word! I’m glad that I did what I did, when I did! 😉
Relationships (all types) take work. Great post and good analogue with the job interviews.
Thank you so much! Yes, indeed it is work, but very rewarding when it’s good. ♥️💋